HELP!

I was reading an article the other day about why couples leave it so long to seek help for their relationships.  This got me thinking too.  Is it really because of the feeling of shame, or failure that stop couples seeking help earlier?  Five, ten, twenty, thirty plus years some couples wait – not doing anything about it . . .  until they are so desperate they are at the ‘break up’ stage . . . falsely believing they have married the wrong person!

 

In no area of life do we think we can be experts without some teaching and training to become proficient – except for marriage! We have been tricked!  It is not failure to be taught new skills, to seek guidance or instruction.  The only failure is the failure to take action when something is wrong and you need help. Why wait until the issues we are struggling with have become so entrenched and have snowballed to be so enormous? Most often we find there are simple communication tools that can help unlock intimacy and heal pain.

Don’t settle for a mediocre marriage – but an extraordinary relationship filled with passion and life together!

 

Here is a snippet from the article, “If you are in that place where you are struggling for solutions to the issues and problems in your marriage, I encourage you to take the step to seek help. Maybe it’s going to a seminar, reading a book, watching a video, getting into a small group or Bible study on marriage. Perhaps you need to find a pastor, counsellor, coach, mentor or even friend or family member for the two of you to sit down with and work through the difficulties. Whatever step you need to take, large or small, I encourage you to take it and not let any more weeks, months or years go by. There shouldn’t be shame attached to seeking help for your relationship any more than there is shame when you have to go to the dentist because your home remedy didn’t fix the toothache, or when you have to take your car into the mechanic because you didn’t know how to fix the carburettor. That isn’t failure. The only failure is the failure to take action when something is wrong and you need help.” (Mark Gungor – Relationship Expert)

I welcome your thoughts on ‘Why couples wait far too long for help’.  Maybe you think it is because of  fear, failure, pride or not knowing how to ask for help? And if you think you are doing great – maybe prove it to yourself and do our 2 min marriage health check / WOF on line. www.excelmarriages.co.nz/marriage-health-check/